Emotional intelligence in marriage is one of the keys to a lasting, connected, and fulfilling relationship. In short, emotional intelligence in marriage is displayed and experienced when both a wife and a husband are keenly aware of their individual emotions, they manage those emotions in a healthy way, and then they are intentionally aware and attentive to the emotions of their mate. It may sound simple but to become an emotional intelligence in marriage expert, you must practice.

Research has overwhelmingly demonstrated that one of the traits shared by couples who report a high degree of marital satisfaction is that they simply feel emotionally connected to their partner. Another way to describe this is that they feel that their partner genuinely cares about them and is normally kind in their interactions. It is not always about sharing on a "deep, personal level;" just as often is merely about what each other has to say, even if it's as mundane as a description of the horrible traffic on the way home from work.

Emotionally intelligent couples are aware of what is going on in their mate's world and demonstrates care for that world. They are open and respond to things their spouse may need from them: a kind word, a listening ear, a gentle touch, a sensual and sexual encounter, or warm reassurance. Even in conflict, couples who display emotional intelligence in marriage are able to stay emotionally connected. They are smart enough and disciplined enough to avoid hurting their relational intimacy which occurs when couples display contempt and meanness to each other. Emotionally intelligent marriages simply and profoundly demonstrate love in all that do.

If you would like help developing emotional intelligence in marriage, contact me. We are experts in the subject; and we are here to help you have the emotional connection with your mate that you've always dreamed of.

Dr. Tim Gardner
 

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